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Talk about love, birds may be around you.
Talk about marriage, jokes will surround you.

——– Now, don’t copy that. I just made that up. Really.

Marriage is a decision of a life time. It’s like now or never. While divorce is common in our country, it can be costly and burdensome. If you are thinking of either Love marriage or Arrange Marriage, I am hoping this article should come in handy.

In our country, many of our youth are forced into arrange marriages which occur through efforts by family and friends — for there is always fun making a match for a couple. Who knew?

An Adult whose family has always followed traditional marriage style, is more likely to follow the same pattern. For example, if your sister got married through arrange marriage, your family could be expecting the same from you and as a daughter you feel that it’s your duty to follow your sister’s pattern. No way!

For many couples, arrange marriage works, and for others, it doesn’t work. Also, its difficult to measure if Arrange marriage is more successful than Love Marriage. But, if you are wise, you can make your own decision, be responsible for it. Let’s face it, your marriage is yours, it’s your life. Why on earth should anyone interfere on your decision of a life time ? Your marriage is yours, so be your own boss for heaven’s sake.

A marriage isn’t made in heaven, a slogan that seems to be uplifted more by Arrange Marriage. Yes, your friends and relatives hustle, hum, and chant the mantra for your marriage with someone you have probably never met. Yes, the photo looks good and you like it. If you are chanting “Yes” to Dad, Mum and marriage broker, and all you know about the person is his or her beauty, you probably need to have safe xes (oh I’m shy, read opposite), then think about this question again. Am I really ready for marriage ? For what ? What else is there in marriage ? If you can’t answer much, you aren’t ready.

Marriage broker, who isn’t paid so probably is expecting a hefty gift from you Dad or Mum. Did you know that ? He/She will describe what the girl looks like, that is, if you don’t have the photo, and they will tell you her family background including financial details such as assets, homes they own, where they traveled when they were kids, which countries they visited and oh yes, (Auta chora America ka ma chaa might be one of them). For boys, they will say the same thing or even bigger. They will exaggerate. <— You can read that again.

Everyone likes to say a little more than they really are. Just because you heard from a relative doesn’t mean it’s true, but our joyful mind won’t stop and think. It won’t. Why should you listen from me ? EXPERIENCE.

If you are, would-be bride, expect to hear untold truths about the groom — salary (in thousands), big house, and what-not-and-everything. Yes, his dad has one house in Terai and Three in Himal where you won’t be able to visit because it’s way way far and you are of course the Sahariya who loves cars, bikes and stuffs.

We are friendly and polite, it’s in our Arrange Marriage Mix. Respect your Dad and Mum and never call elders by the name. Never say a single bad word, follow “Namaskar” to our Uncles, Uncles’s Uncles, Mother’s Friends’ Dad’s Uncles !! It doesn’t take much to think good for everyone. Arrange Marriage Loves us.

You looked at her photo, you hungry soul said “Yes” to the marriage broker, said “Yes to Dad” and you dreamed of her, you are screwed for life! It doesn’t matter if the broker came home to say something about the girl. You jumped off your balcony to greet him on the ground and your ears are closed, you are making Tea for him instead of the usual, you are gone for life.

We all trust everyone and very easily. There is nothing wrong. But for Arrange Marriage, we think nobody will hide nothing. Wrong. Wrong. and Wrong.

When bad time comes, it won’t knock on your door, they come like a song made of the words you love most:

(a) beauty
(b) sex
(c) money
(d) age

Listen, what a song. Dad is singing. Mum is dancing, Uncle is jumping, Radio is playing some English hits in a FM channel. Don’t you feel something is wrong there. Stop !

Don’t dot it – Arrange Marriage is Yes and Yes and Yes only !

Did you ever ask any question about the your would be partner ? Can you think of any possible reasons why you should stop your marriage ? Would you feel bad if you stopped this marriage ? —— These all could be the signs that you are going to be unhappy ???

Don’t Do it – Arrange marriage Might suck!

Since you said, Yes, you feel as if the whole world is saying “Yes” for you but little have you known of your would be partner for life. You are probably already planning for grand Honey-moon feed by your savings, may be thinking of kids, and you know the Marriage parties is about much of your choices than choices and agreement between your family and hers. Is something coming your way that you can’t afford ? Is a BIG Loan coming in your life ? After all, Arrange marriage is more about showing off, isn’t it ? How much will you be borrowing for your marriage and should you ?

Don’t Do it! – Arrange Marriage could make you bankrupt.

Although you don’t want to listen from the marriage broker, but he/she keeps adding more and more and it just makes you happy to listen. Do you ever stop, think and ask, “Is that really true ?” and plus “Why is he telling me that ? “, “Who is he?”, “Why is he Happy and how come I seem to be worried ? ”

Don’t dot it! — It’s your business to say “No”. Saying “No” will not hurt anyone. Don’t worry about her/him, he/she will find someone who is better than you, because you are one lousy dude !